8 is not a lucky number

Went to the market today and at the main intersection were both sides of proposition 8. You can see this issue is close to every one's heart. I think it is a tough proposition to be say whether you support it or not. On the very first instinct you think it would that if anything to do with a person's right to do something, then we should back that right. On the other hand what about the right of the others who wants to keep marriage as between a man and a woman. I would be lying if I said I am dead set on which side. I have a dear aunt that I care about who is a lesbian and yet I have also my Christian up bring. Yet also I have my overall just notice of the world around me. I guess it is one of those topic really no one win. Ever since this proposition I had reason to support and then to go against proposition 8. Today I have one that I figure I put in writing. If I was a parent and if I were to talk to my kid about sex and the birds and the bees, then what would I say as to when s/he should have sex. Obviously I can say only to have sex after marriage. But I think I will strongly say s/he should only have a baby when s/he is married. So in that sense, I wonder if that is a part of other things that marriage serve to this society. Lets just stop thinking about the 'self' for one second and then pause to ask what does marriage do for a society? What was its purpose and what was the original intent. If the argument is to say well I would encourage the kid to not think about having kids, then that would be absurd. Then when two people love to one another should it always lead to marriage? That question and the follow up questions is what makes this such a tough question. The conservative in me tells me that marriage was an idea between a woman and a man. When the gay/lesbian kid was born s/he identified marriage as a man and a woman. Otherwise s/he would not exist. Yet what about the rights of a human to pursue the desire to be with someone with full commitment by contractual commitment in the court of law. I am go back and forth. So I often wonder in the purpose of the law and the fairness for everyone, what if we just name same sex union with the desire to commit themselves in the court of law as something else? Give it another name. After that build things around it. We have law for different countries, we have law for different states, why not for this? Well this blog if anyone read it will upset the reader. But this is just my opinion or more or less my observation. I think I often don't stand on just one side, but to see that not one side or one belief can work in this world. If nothing else I learn from my travels, is that the most beautiful thing in this world is the miracle of having rigidness and also freewill exist in one small planet.